Creating Energetic Boundaries
We all have a brilliant and magnificent light within, be it our spirit, our soul or our authenticity.
Shining our light brightly can be easy when life is going our way, when our family life is harmonious and we don’t have to venture outside our comfort zones. But in the real world, how many of us fold in our light and magic in when we are in challenging situations or hide our light altogether? Where is the balance point where we can be our self, remain intuitive and authentic, and still be able to live a normal life and have healthy marriages and friendships?
As an empath and an intuitive I have struggled with this over the years. It seems there is a ton of resources on how to expand and open our telepathic and intuitive abilities but much less on how to manage that opening. Just as there are plenty of perspectives on how to clean your aura and personal spaces once you have been energetically slimed, accosted or traumatized but there are very few resources on prevention.
This is where energetic boundaries come in. Energetic boundaries define what we choose to allow into our field, and what we don’t. Energetic boundaries clarify what we are willing to engage with and how. They help us say yes to things that we want and no to those we don’t. When we have clear energetic boundaries it is like we are wearing a magnificent transparent suit of clothing that allows our light to shine outward, and the light that we resonate with to dance with the outer edges of our energy. Energetic boundaries help us shine by providing us a constant clear and loving space to be our self and engage with others, family, and community in an energetically safe way.
These boundaries also help us to discern what is us and what is not, which is crucial for all empaths and intuitives. By clearly defining who we are at our core and knowing who we are, we are able to recognize when we are engaging with something (an energy or a feeling) that is not ours.
When we first are learning to live intuitively it is important for us to learn techniques to keep our energy healthy such as, smudging, salt baths, aura and chakra clearings. Learning and mastering the practice of daily energy scrubs are a great way to learn energetic hygiene, to build and strengthen our intuitive feelings and clairvoyant abilities. However, when we take a cue from preventive medicine we can prevent most energetic imbalances and illness such as collecting others energy in our space, energetic vampirism and other traumatic energy imbalances by creating clear energetic boundaries.
A fellow shamanic practitioner, Michelle McKinney once shared with me that “Boundaries are where the ocean meets the shore.” I love this description as it describes boundaries as fluid, strong, loving and very clear.
When we create boundaries that are loving and clear we are honoring our self, our friendships, family, and those around us. Creating clear boundaries for ourselves also can help us build stronger intuition and clairvoyance. When we are not constantly swimming in other’s energy we have the ability to learn to distinguish what is us vs. what belongs to other’s. When we create clear boundaries both physically and energetically we (the overly sensitive, the empathic and intuitive) are able to create a safe and nurturing nest for ourselves to really shine our light. We are able to extend our magic into the world with profound effects in ways that do not drain us, or in other unhealthy ways.
Want more info?
Check out my book Energetic Boundaries 101, . A fully illustrated guide to creating energetic boundaries, written for sensitive people, healers and empaths.
Joanna, author of Energetic Boundaries 101, is an energy-sensitive healer, writer and teacher who brings a refreshing, playful spin to the world of energy and energetic boundaries.
She offers collaborative, playful private sessions and workshops to healers, teachers and sensitive adults and children all over the country.