Four Pet Peeves About How We Talk About Empaths
As a fellow empath and sensitive person, I am going to go out on a limb here and share something that I have been fired up about for a while. To be completely honest each and every time an "are you an empath" quiz that showcases a long list of dysfunctional traits or an article sharing the plight of highly sensitive people crosses my desk, the fire within me grows. Because it seems there is a growing trend, that has been building momentum for a while labeling empaths and highly sensitive people as weary, too sensitive to have healthy relationships, and to shy and weak be the change makers we were born to be.
As an empath and a highly sensitive person I can say for certain that there is more to being sensitive than the dysfunction this current trend showcases.
Personally, I say it is time we call B.S. I say B.S. on the language used to talk about our gifts and encourage instead a new conversation about what it actually means to be a sensitive empath that inspires each of us to thrive. Are you with me?
Here are the top four things, I would love to gather round as community and transform!
1. The reliance on shields & walls The current trends produces truck loads of articles and books that encourages empaths to stay at home to protect and wall and shield our self from others toxic energy and emotions. What could happen if Instead we learned to create natural energetic boundaries that allowed us to live fully and work with our empathic and sensitive gifts as the super powers they are? What if we had the tools we needed to feel safe to venture out into the world and learn and grow from interacting with others rather than just fearing them?
2. Language that is rooted in judgement The current trends are quick to label EVERYONE in the world a toxic-narcissist and gives us lists of excuses of why we should not engage with other if they have challenging personalities. Imagine what could happen if we were to empower each other in and learn how to navigate relationships with challenging folks in ways that feel empowering, loving and inclusive?
3. Little room for transformation The current trends are quick to sympathetically tells us, "as an empath, you are forever destined to be an energetic sponge." Let's instead explore ways to shift our presence so we are not energetic sponges but rather empowered, thriving embodied beings!
4. Reliance on the roles within Karpman's Drama Triangle The current trends offers information and self care practices that are solely based on the three roles Karpman's Drama triangle offers us of the Victim, The Persecutor, or the Rescuer and offer tools that allow only for us to our self from others or practicing the art of avoidance. Imagine what kind of world we could create if we as the most sensitive ones of this world were empowered...
Because, you know, and I know, as Empaths & Sensitive People we are flipping superheroes.
We have sensitive super-powers that when finely tuned, we have the power to create massive amounts of positive change and healing on the front lines of our life. Yet the trends related to how we talk about our sensitives are laced with victimization and judgement of self and other. As superheroes we each have our own Kryptonite and for most of us, our Kryptonite lays within our own shadow. Those unclaimed bits of our self that are more than ready to trip us and hold us back until we learn how to acknowledge and heal them.
Embodiment is our secret weapon of transformation
For some of us, feeling and getting into our body is the last place we want to be. Because we hurt or we might be resisting coming face to face with our grief or unhealed wounding or fear feeling our own feelings and breath.
However, we must brave on, get the right support to relearn and remember that our body can be a safe place to be, the present moment can hold us in safety.
Because… you are a sensitive being, the world needs you to feel safe and secure enough to create and enter into collaborative balanced relationships with those your love, speak your brilliant idea’s at the office and shine your light and create healing in the world, simply by being the amazing, authentic intuitive superhero being you are meant to be.
Finally, a book that won't tell you to hide
In truth, I become so fed up with the nonsense of labeling empaths and highly sensitive people as weak that I wrote a book!
This book won't tell you to hide, or that you are weak but it will give you an empowering choice and tools how to create an energetic boundary with your own presence so you can feel more like the magical, superhero you and I both know you are.
And there are full-color illustrations to nourish the kid in you.
Joanna is the author of Energetic Boundaries 101. She is a shamanic practitioner, animal communicator and mentor. She works, writes lives and tends to the important matters of spirit-energy with playful, transparency and honesty.
She works with clients all over the globe from her healing studio that is lovingly nestled between Mt Baker and the Salish sea, in Bellingham, WA.