4 Survival Tools for Senstive & Intutive Kids

Photo Dollarphotoclub/ tatyana_k

Photo Dollarphotoclub/ tatyana_k

{In this post, I will be using the word "sensitive" as an umbrella term to describe the ability to see, feel, hear, taste, touch and smell at a heightened level (as in clairvoyance and clairaudience), the ability to see auras and energy as well as the ability to know things, the ability to talk with animals, nature fairies spirits and elements.}

Sensitive Kids are Amazing

Kids have a hard enough time trying to figure out what is right and wrong and how to be in the world. But sensitive kids, Holy smokes! Sensitive kids also shoulder the responsibility of having a host of complex and complicated things they have to figure out as well. 

Unfortunately, many of these kids (I was in this this category of kids growing up) end up stumbling along trying to figure it out alone.  It can be confusing and painful for children to cope without the tools to understand what they are experiencing and without the language to express it to peers and adults. In my practice, I see so many adults who still carry the pain left over from these very difficult formative years.

In an effort fit in and be “normal” or to appease the fears of their parents, many children turn off their sensitive gifts.

They bury their sensitivities so deeply that they no longer even remember it is there. Some children actually splinter their spirit in an effort to get as far away as possible from that which makes them different.   This splinting happens when parts of our vital essence are lost in the deep forgotten closets of our psyche. This creates a deep soul pain that feels like a deep longing for a part of our self that is always just out of reach. This pain and yearning can last sometimes last years, even after we have forgotten what it is that we are longing for.

If I could go back and share some vital tools with my younger self and my parents that would help make life as an sensitive kid smoother, these five things are at the top of my list….

 

1. Learn the art of discernment 

Sensitive kids can have a very tricky time learning to distinguish their own feelings from the feeling of others. The ability to safely be with peers, parents, teachers and pet’s and NOT pick up on their fears, their anxiety, and feelings is something most kids don’t even think about. But for a sensitive kid, this is Survival 101.

Understanding what we feel in our own body, mind and spirit is a basic need to get by in the world. It determines what we like and don’t like, who we are, and who we want as friends.

Without these tools, sensitive children generally have their intuitive skills on high most of the time.  This can create headaches, stomach aches, exhaustion, confusion, nightmares, and irritability- to name a few. 

Having trusted adults help sort and navigate the intensity of feelings goes a long way in empowering an sensitive child to learn to distinguish the differences between their feelings and those of others.

For adults who live witha sensitive child, ask questions and be curious about their answers!  Giving kids a chance to talk out what works and does not work can go a long way in their ability to learn coping skills.

For chronic tummy aches, asking questions such as: “What does this tummy ache feel like? Does it feel like yours or someone else’s? Have you felt this kind of tummy ache before? If so, where were you and what were you doing? Are you feeling overwhelmed with others emotions? What kinds of things do you feel might help you feel better?”, can open a conversation to a child learn coping.

 

2. Time alone is healthy

Growing up, my main survival skill was spending a fair amount of time by myself or in nature.  It helped turn down the volume of everyone else feelings so I could quiet my mind, find my own center and get a break from all of the energetic clutter that had built up.  On the list of things I would share with my younger self is that it is okay to spend the time you need alone and hit the re-set button. Give yourself permission to do this as often as you need to.

Many sensitive people, have a difficult time spending time in large crowds of people or energetically charged places like hospitals, nursing homes and places with a traumatic history like a battle field or places of high crime. These places can be like the grand central station for spirits and other unruly energies.

Until kids have the tools and boundaries to manage their sensitivities, it can be helpful to give them special permissions to do what they need to take care of themselves including taking brakes to go outside or scheduling enough alone time after big or stressful events. 

 

 

3. Learn basic boundary setting

For sensitive kids, learning to set energy boundaries is crucial. Intentional and clear boundaries allow us to share space with others and not pick up the feelings and emotions of others.

The first step in learning to set intentional boundaries (instead of creating unintentional walls) is to learn to own your own personal space. This helps us learn to feel our own energy and helps us decipher ourselves from others.

One way you can own your own personal space is  by breathing fresh air into your body and visualizing your breath moving into all areas of your body from your toes to the top of your head. Next exhale pushing your energy from your belly out to the edges of your aura. Be sure to breath your energy to both the front and back of your body and above, below and to your right and left until you have completely surrounded yourself with your own energy.  

When we are fully present and in our own body and occupying our personal space, we are much less likely to pick up on energy that can ‘leak’ from others into our space.

 

 

4. It is OK to look away

Until we are able to get a handle on the boundaries of energy, sensitive kids sense all sorts of stuff whether they want to or not.

It is imperative to learn to only sense the energetic stuff in the world that you can put in a context and process. 

What I mean by this is when we sense something asking, "Does it apply directly to me?" If not, then let it go and focus on something else, even if it is our own breath.  This is an important skill for sensitive kids to learn. This empowers them if they see things that scare them or are confusing.

It takes a fair amount of practice to see what applies to you and leave the rest. But it can be done. 

It can be helpful for sensitives to turn “it” all off from time to time, too. 

By “it” I am referring to the seeing, feeling, hearing and knowing things that can sometimes get in the way of just living our life.

Here is a tip: visualize a dial that is hidden behind your third eye that only you can see or change. This dial can control the amount of information you can feel with your intuitive senses. When you need to, simply turn the dial down to a manageable level. It also works to visualize your third eye, closing for a while to rest. 

 

Is your child sensitive, empathic or intuitive?

Check out my very kid friendly book, Energy boundaries 101 here. It will help you and your kids create some great energy boundaries that will help them feel safer in the world.  

 

Me around 7 years old 

 

Final words of gratitude

Growing up intuitive and senstive was challenging for me but I am grateful for my childhood.

My parents were/are amazing; I had a handful of very influential people that always seemed to show up, just when I needed them the most.

I am grateful for all those who shared their light and skills and for showing up in my life at the right time in the right place. I hope the stories and healing tools I share lands in the hands of a child or parent at the right time and in the right place.

 

 

 

 

About Joanna

Joanna, the author of Energetic Boundaries 101, is an energy-sensitive healer, writer, and teacher who brings a refreshing, playful spin to the world of  intuition shamanism and energetic boundaries.

She offers collaborative, playful private sessions and workshops to healers, teachers and sensitive adults and children all over the country.

www.JoannaSchmidt.com