Transforming the Illusion of Competition Among Healers
I wrote and am sharing this post specifically for my peers & friends in the healing profession.
The idea of competition among healers has been coming up in conversations with peers recently.
It seems that many of us struggle with knowing that competition among healers down right silly. but still struggle with it in our own being or see it in the behaviors within our healing community and professions. I believe we can transform this! Who better then a group of gifted healers, ready to heal the world?
Transforming the illusion of competition
Most holistic practitioners and healers know the benefits offered by healthy interactions with other practitioners. We have experienced firsthand the insights and gifts that collaborations with our peers can create.We know how helpful it is to be able to call on a friend in our profession and say, “Hey, I came across something really weird today, and I am not sure what to make of it. What is your take on it?” There is growth and learning in these collaborations. They strengthen us as individuals and our profession becomes stronger too.
However, as business owners, we can sometimes feel undercurrents of outdated and unsupported beliefs that whisper to us that we are in competition with our peers for clients. Yet when we get right down to it, how can a profession of helpers, who make it our life’s work to help bring balance to the world, be in competition with each other? We know that competition among healers is not supportive of our healing practices, so what causes us to run our business as if this illusion of a threat is real?
Creating room for collaboration
In my own inner work with this issue, I have identified a few complexes that seem to be clear tripping hazards that prevent us healers to really step up and create the kind of collaboration and cooperation among us that can really boost our profession, our clients and our communities. Whether we find our self showing behaviors from one of these complexes or see one in the actions of our peers, simply being able to identify these complexes seems like a step in the right direction.
The hungry healer complex
The hungry healer is a gifted practitioner who has dropped into raw survivor mode. Their books are near empty. The rent is almost due and they don’t have it. Desperation starts to set in. The hungry healer complex can cause one to get a little slippery when it comes to marketing: interjecting plugs into conversations in inappropriate ways and jumping to offer vacation coverage a little too fast.
Hungry healers have good hearts and are often very talented at their healing offerings; they have simply hit on hard times or have not yet learned the skills needed for finding their ideal clients. Even with the level of fear hungry healers have, they are still our peers and are not competition. They are fellow geniuses who are struggling. What they need more than our clients is a fellow healer to remind them that they are going to be OK. They are not alone and things will get better.
The freshly opened blossom complex
This complex can create trouble for a wide group of healers: new students who are understanding complex patterns in the body for the first time; newly opening clairvoyants seeing and feeling so much energy; and even seasoned practitioners who are learning a new modality that in the moment feels like a cure all, for everything.
The freshly opened blossom is often having so much fun; it is hard to call this a complex at all. But there is an added twist, with the amount of energy the freshly opened blossom is running, staying grounded can be a challenge. With their gusto and at times un-grounded excitement freshly opening blossoms are not competition. However, they do need allies, collaborators and fellow healers. Peers who can pose great questions that can create healing conversations over tea.
When the sufferer of the freshly opened blossom complex does come out of this doozy of a tail spin, they will have so much healing to offer the world as our ally and fellow healer.
The Guru complex
Trouble can brew when a practitioner starts to believe that they are the BEST thing since sliced, organic, gluten-free bread. It gets worse when someone suffering from the Guru complex believes they have some kind of power that their clients or peers cannot attain, like anointment by a master healer--or God.
If you are lucky enough to have crossed paths with someone who suffers from the Guru complex, you have seen how far those with this complex can stumble from their true path. They might even completely lose sight of their light and their potential.
Their actions may be simply a search for the validation they are unable to get from within their own spirit. They are not our competition, but depending on what we offer in our practice, they might be our ideal client.
The amazing gifted healer who seems to have it all together
OK, so this one is NOT a complex. But I want to add it to this list because the talented healer--with a full calendar, plenty of income and a talent for having it all--has the potential to ruffle a few tail feathers, especially when we are living in fear or struggling with one of the many emotional complications that running a business can cause.
This practitioner who seems to have it all together is one of our best allies and the farthest thing from being our competition. A healer who has reached that place of awesomeness has a road map of how they got there. If they are as amazing as we think, they will most likely offer guidance and support to help us get there too.
Creating Healing to Transform these Shadow Roles
When we find our self in resonance with one of these complexes either in our own life or have been triggered by someone showing symptoms, here are a few ideas to get us started back in the right direction.
Make a list of reasons we answered the call to follow the path of a healer and hang it up where we can see it every day.
Write letters of gratitude (to send or not) to past teachers or fellow healers that have played a positive role in our life and practice.
Receive your favorite healing modality or do some personal work to mend this gap in our personal power, focusing on the areas you feel "less than."
Fine tune our healing niche. Who do we really love working with? Who are our people? Dog lovers? Teachers? Athletes? Perhaps the self-appointed guru down the street? Tad Hargrave of Marketing for Hippies has some great tips on his blog for finding your niche. Check him out nichingspiral.com
OK, this last tip can take some courage. Create the world we want to live in. If we feel waded up with insecurities about our own business after finding a business card or website of another practitioner that offers similar work, we can call them up and invite them for tea or a walk. Get to know them, ask why they are passionate about healing and use our healing gifts to transform our fear into potentially great collaboration.
Over to you... I would love to hear the ways you are transforming this in your self and in your peer groups, leave a note in the comments and join the conversation.
Joanna, the author of Energetic Boundaries 101, is an energy-sensitive healer, writer, and teacher who brings a refreshing, playful spin to the world of energy and energetic boundaries.
She offers collaborative, playful private sessions and workshops to healers, teachers and sensitive adults and children all over the country.